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Friends’s Corner
Hearing that a friend or relative has been diagnosed with cancer can be overwhelming. There are several ways you can offer support within your capacity while avoiding actions that might inadvertently cause physical or emotional harm.
First thing first . . .
Keep in mind that your friend needs time to process this news. Avoid bombarding them with questions or suggestions, as they might already be receiving a lot of similar messages from others, which can add to their stress. Instead, I’ve listed down a few tips on how you can provide meaningful support.
How to give them support
Be there for them
Sometimes, just being there to listen without offering advice can be the most comforting support. Let them share their feelings and thoughts at their own pace.
If they want space, respect that. If they need company, be there for them. Some sentences that you can use:
“Let me know if you need anything”
“I'm here for you. If you ever want to talk, I'm ready to listen."
"If you need to vent or just talk about something else to take your mind off things, I'm here."
Please avoid saying things like "Everything happens for a reason" or "Stay positive." This might came across as invalidating their feelings. Instead, give them time and let them share to you when they're ready.
Educate yourself
Learn about their type of cancer and treatment options to better understand what they are going through. This can help you offer more meaningful support and avoid misunderstandings. And, remember that every cancer journey is unique. Avoid comparing their situation to others you may have known.
Be sensitive to their needs
Treatment and the stress of the diagnosis can cause mood swings and changes in behavior. Be patient and understanding.
Unless asked, avoid giving medical or lifestyle advice. I know you mean well, but from the receiving end, it will just add more complexity in their decision-making process. Trust that they are getting the necessary information from their healthcare providers
Check with the Caregiver
Always confirm the visit beforehand to ensure it's a good time. The patient’s energy levels and schedules can be unpredictable due to treatments and doctor appointments. Be prepared to reschedule or shorten the visit if the patient is not feeling up to it.
Pay attention to health protocols
Cancer patients often have weakened immune systems. Make sure you're healthy and follow any guidelines the patient’s medical team may have regarding visitors. Several things that you need to pay attention to:
Don’t come if you feel sick. A light flu for you might result into a life-threatening condition for them.
Use medical-grade face mask, even if you don’t feel sick. This is a preventive measure because you might be sick but don’t know it.
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Disclaimer
This website is created by cancer survivor for sharing purposes; this is not intended to replace doctor's / psychiatrist’s opinion.
Seek professional help if needed.
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